CLICKAsk us anything here. My personal blog. Ashley’s personal blog. Nick’s personal blog. This blog was created to offer advice to those who feel they have nowhere else to go, to those who feel alone, to those who have felt things a million times or just for the first time, or for those who just need to talk. Get anything off your chest here with people who have their own problems, but instead of letting them hinder us, we’re using the experiences to help guide others. We’re hoping you’ll see like minded people here, and by reading their problems, you’ll no longer feel alone. Ask us about our problems, tell us about yours. Anyone and anything is accepted here. Sit down, make yourself at home and have a cup of tea and a slice of cake.xoTumblr (3.0; @cupofteasliceofcake)http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/<p>Yes xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/33249982914http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/33249982914Tue, 09 Oct 2012 16:47:31 -0400<p>Hello,</p> <p>well, are you in a position to move out and live on your own perhaps? Have you told him how it makes you feel?</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/26487313363http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/26487313363Wed, 04 Jul 2012 08:13:14 -0400<p>eep! i’m so proud of you! go you!</p> <p>and you’re very welcome :)</p> <p>take care my love!</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25849116111http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25849116111Mon, 25 Jun 2012 08:35:41 -0400<p>Well, you need to ask yourself this question: why did you cheat on him? Only you can answer that question. Will you do it again? Maybe you’re not ready to be in a committed relationship. 18 is still very young.</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369300664http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369300664Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:42:01 -0400<p>Well, maybe you should talk to a counsellor or something about the incident in the club because you could be suffering from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). That wouldn’t be abnormal, if you were. Everyone deals with things differently. As for the court case, don’t be too worried, you’re surrounding by police and lawyers. If they tried anything, it would only work out in your favour.</p> <p>As for the uni stuff stressing you out… the end is in site, hon. Don’t give up on it! You’ve put so much time and effort into this program, giving up would be a waste. And once it’s all over, you’ll be able to relax. Just hang in there darling xx</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369231260http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369231260Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:40:00 -0400http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369097564http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369097564Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:38:13 -0400http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369078837http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369078837Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:37:53 -0400<p>Well, just take things slowly. Maybe that’s all she wants for the time being? If things are mean’t to work out, they will progress naturally. If she continues to show no further interest, then it’s not mean’t to be.</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369058452http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25369058452Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:37:29 -0400<p>it’s not selfish at all of you to feel that way. In fact, you have every right to feel resentment towards your father. He isn’t man enough anymore to take care of his kids and make sure they have what they need. If he wants to go out or have an affair, he should at least be adult and man enough to tell you and your siblings, and make sure you have what you need to get by while he’s gone. That is absolutely despicable behaviour, no matter what he’s done to take care of you in the past. you owe him nothing and you should NOT feel bad or that you owe him something for taking care of you guys before when you were younger. That is what a father DOES. He is not a father. I think you should tell him how you feel. And if nothing changes, you should talk to a social worker somewhere and get someone else involved. What about your grandparents?</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25368998041http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25368998041Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:36:22 -0400http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25368858228http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25368858228Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:33:44 -0400http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25368854458http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/25368854458Mon, 18 Jun 2012 12:33:39 -0400<p>first of all, i am so incredibly sorry for your loss :(</p> <p>secondly you need to tell them that you feel like they’re ganging up on you and that you are aware their intentions are good, however you feel like they’re patronising you a bit….</p> <p>it’s not up to them to tell you how to feel. just because they feel ok now doesn’t mean you should. if it takes you 5 years to get over this then that’s fine. if you never get over this then that’s fine.</p> <p>it’s about when you feel ready and not anyone else. your studies could be massively affected if you go back before you’re ready as you’ll be distracted. on the other hand however it might be a good idea to take a little longer out and not dismiss going back in fall altogether. you may be pleasantly surprised that keeping yourself busy might just take your mind of things and make them a little easier?</p> <p>either way, consider both options and when the time comes around just be firm with your family about your decision, they can’t live your life for you!</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/24502073201http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/24502073201Tue, 05 Jun 2012 19:32:09 -0400<p>i read all your other messages by don’t worry i won’t publish them!</p> <p>it’s a bit rubbish i guess, even when we tell ourselves we’re not getting our hopes up we know we really are because it’s impossible not to when you like someone.</p> <p>it was silly of him to say those things if he didn’t mean them, or maybe when he was drunk he felt like he did. at the end of the day at least he had the decency to say that straight up instead of using you and then disappearing?</p> <p>it’s probably good that he hasn’t text you seeing as that would prolong it further and make it harder to forget about him. don’t text him, just ride it out and you’ll be over it sooner than you know.</p> <p>as for the paranoia, i think it’s something every single person i have ever spoken to suffers with and from my own experience, you can’t do anything but change your attitude towards it to a more positive one.</p> <p>i turned bitter a couple of years ago and fought against everyone who tried to get in, because i was sick of being treated like shit, then every so often i would let someone in and they’d hurt me or i’d hurt them because i wanted the company but i didn’t like them in that way so they got led on. ANYWAY, i thought it was because i was shutting people out, or that i wasn’t good enough and it made me worse, then out of the blue, i was out with my friends one night, more bitter and anti-men than ever and my (now) boyfriend spoke to me and now i’m happier than ever. i didn’t panic for a second. i wasn’t paranoid or angry or worried because he was the right person, not because of me pushing people away at all.</p> <p>it’s shitty and we’ve all been there but the right person won’t make you feel paranoid when you’re with them and that’s how you’ll know it’s right. the best ones are worth waiting for, i swear :)</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/23880799804http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/23880799804Sun, 27 May 2012 15:59:26 -0400<p>stay away from him for a start, friends are forever but boys are not. believe me, it won’t be worth it and if it ends badly then you’ve lost both of them.</p> <p>i’ve been in this situation, after trying to console both parties and getting no where i politely told them i didn’t want to be involved, that i’d give advice and comfort but i was the middleground and a catalyst for them to talk through when they were trying to get back at each other or one wouldn’t talk to the other.</p> <p>this isn’t your break up so you’re not obliged to act like it is.</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/23880037192http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/23880037192Sun, 27 May 2012 15:47:07 -0400<p>how old are you? in any case there is no legal age to date (as long as there is no sexual contact if you are under age).</p> <p>you parents can’t tell you that you are not allowed to date, but maybe there are reasons as to why they are a little wary of boys?</p> <p>have a chat with them about that and the reasons they are against it first, you shouldn’t have to hide it, you’re right, it’s your life not theirs and if you’re going to make mistakes they have to let you or you’ll never learn valuable lessons. if they shelter you away you’ll never learn any life experience if you’re just a carbon copy of them and what they want you to be.</p> <p>ask them what the problem is and if that clears the air a little then tell them if you feel confident and happy. at the end of the day if they disown you for having a boyfriend it’ll only reflect badly on them.</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/23247540381http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/23247540381Thu, 17 May 2012 17:17:40 -0400<p>if your gut feeling is that he doesn’t feel the same i’d suggest you take a step back from him. this way if he cares then he will come to you and if you’re right and he doesn’t you’ve saved yourself from getting hurt any further.</p> <p>if you’ve told him how you feel before and things have never progressed then in my opinion it’s not meant to be. it’s been spelt out to him and he’s done nothing about it, i think if he felt the same he would have acted on that.</p> <p>take a step back and see what he does. it will either make or break this but either way you’ll have your answer.</p> <p>i hope it works in your favour poppet.</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713979115http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713979115Wed, 09 May 2012 09:18:15 -0400<p>maybe this is a blessing as he’s kind enough not to condemn you for your behaviour? have you spoken about it with him?</p> <p>the only thing i can think of is this guy really loves you and doesn’t care about your past. he must also be very trustworthy if he’s taken you back and from what i can tell you’d never cheat on him.</p> <p>you made a mistake, but so do people every day, far worse than cheating. don’t dwell on it, just accept that you are happy, he is happy and from what i can judge you have a top lad!</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713880956http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713880956Wed, 09 May 2012 09:14:36 -0400<p>i feel the same in terms of my image and i hide my body a lot and it also stops me wanting to leave the house. i’ve struggled with various eating issues and still do and i know this is one thing that i can’t stand people trying to help me with unless they’ve been there.</p> <p>i have to keep reminding myself that because i see myself that way, it doesn’t mean others do. it doesn’t help me like my figure but it helps me be less paranoid so i can go out.</p> <p>as for not being able to leave the house - i’ve been there. i finally realised that no matter how much i starve myself or stuff my face, i will always look in the mirror and hate the reflection staring back at me. it will always look the same no matter if i was 8 stone or 80 stone, i will never beat it unless i rise above it. </p> <p>if you want to do this alone without any help from doctors etc you need to adopt the mentality that it doesn’t matter what size you are, in terms of seeing yourself differently and what people think of you. sitting at home doesn’t make you happy, so maybe you should try going out, you may be surprised at how it makes you feel.</p> <p>this horrible thing is ruling your life and you need to tell it no. take small trips out alone at first. go shopping, have a coffee, go to the park. next time meet a friend, see a movie, take a walk. then maybe try going out with a group, just a social gathering somewhere. take little steps until you find being around people outside of your home more comfortable, but don’t take another step until you are happy with the step you are currently on, this really helped me snap out of wanting to hide away all the time.</p> <p>best of luck, always here if you need to chat :)</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713800318http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713800318Wed, 09 May 2012 09:11:37 -0400<p>i just went through this at uni, i was so stressed that i couldn’t do my work so i’d put it off more and more and it got so much worse but when you think about it, putting it off is the silliest thing you can do…</p> <p>are you struggling with the work itself? because if you are then you need to seek support like i did and that gave me the biggest boost and gave me the motivation.</p> <p>if not then you’re in the same boat as a lot of others, no one enjoys assignments but once you’ve done them i assure you you feel great. in the long run this will get you a career, remember that, you don’t want to be kicking yourself because you lost out because you didn’t write an essay….</p> <p>sit down somewhere quiet and tidy where you are comfortable, maybe have a drink or snack with you so you have no excuse to get up and procrastinate, tell yourself that you’re going to work for half an hour and start to put pen to paper. it’s much easier to write a plan first of what you’re going to do because just going into an assignment headfirst is too daunting and maybe this is what’s worrying you?</p> <p>sit down, relax, put your ideas on paper, now you’ve made a start and you can write a draft of your work (again, taking a smaller step as opposed to going straight into the full assignment)</p> <p>it takes a small amount of work to make you feel a lot better, trust me, you just need to take that small leap first :)</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713596290http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22713596290Wed, 09 May 2012 09:03:51 -0400<p>quite simply you should stay away and distance yourself for a bit if you’re only going to want him more. explain to him that you can’t be around him because it’s confusing you, and to be honest it might happen again and make you feel worse..</p> <p>if he is a true friend he’ll respect that and might even be able to offer you some support. </p> <p>i think it’s best you focus on finding someone else if there’s no feelings on his part. it’s one of those ‘put it to the back of your mind’ things i’m afraid but just remind yourself that it’s doing you good to move on from it. you don’t want to lose this friendship altogether.</p> <p>that’s all i can really say about this but always here if you’re feeling down kid, just give me a shout and we’ll talk it out whenever you like.</p> <p> - sheryl.xo</p>http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22273058553http://cupofteasliceofcake.tumblr.com/post/22273058553Wed, 02 May 2012 16:51:40 -0400