well, are you in a position to move out and live on your own perhaps? Have you told him how it makes you feel?
eep! i’m so proud of you! go you!
and you’re very welcome :)
take care my love!
Well, you need to ask yourself this question: why did you cheat on him? Only you can answer that question. Will you do it again? Maybe you’re not ready to be in a committed relationship. 18 is still very young.
Well, maybe you should talk to a counsellor or something about the incident in the club because you could be suffering from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). That wouldn’t be abnormal, if you were. Everyone deals with things differently. As for the court case, don’t be too worried, you’re surrounding by police and lawyers. If they tried anything, it would only work out in your favour.
As for the uni stuff stressing you out… the end is in site, hon. Don’t give up on it! You’ve put so much time and effort into this program, giving up would be a waste. And once it’s all over, you’ll be able to relax. Just hang in there darling xx
Well, just take things slowly. Maybe that’s all she wants for the time being? If things are mean’t to work out, they will progress naturally. If she continues to show no further interest, then it’s not mean’t to be.
it’s not selfish at all of you to feel that way. In fact, you have every right to feel resentment towards your father. He isn’t man enough anymore to take care of his kids and make sure they have what they need. If he wants to go out or have an affair, he should at least be adult and man enough to tell you and your siblings, and make sure you have what you need to get by while he’s gone. That is absolutely despicable behaviour, no matter what he’s done to take care of you in the past. you owe him nothing and you should NOT feel bad or that you owe him something for taking care of you guys before when you were younger. That is what a father DOES. He is not a father. I think you should tell him how you feel. And if nothing changes, you should talk to a social worker somewhere and get someone else involved. What about your grandparents?
first of all, i am so incredibly sorry for your loss :(
secondly you need to tell them that you feel like they’re ganging up on you and that you are aware their intentions are good, however you feel like they’re patronising you a bit….
it’s not up to them to tell you how to feel. just because they feel ok now doesn’t mean you should. if it takes you 5 years to get over this then that’s fine. if you never get over this then that’s fine.
it’s about when you feel ready and not anyone else. your studies could be massively affected if you go back before you’re ready as you’ll be distracted. on the other hand however it might be a good idea to take a little longer out and not dismiss going back in fall altogether. you may be pleasantly surprised that keeping yourself busy might just take your mind of things and make them a little easier?
either way, consider both options and when the time comes around just be firm with your family about your decision, they can’t live your life for you!
i read all your other messages by don’t worry i won’t publish them!
it’s a bit rubbish i guess, even when we tell ourselves we’re not getting our hopes up we know we really are because it’s impossible not to when you like someone.
it was silly of him to say those things if he didn’t mean them, or maybe when he was drunk he felt like he did. at the end of the day at least he had the decency to say that straight up instead of using you and then disappearing?
it’s probably good that he hasn’t text you seeing as that would prolong it further and make it harder to forget about him. don’t text him, just ride it out and you’ll be over it sooner than you know.
as for the paranoia, i think it’s something every single person i have ever spoken to suffers with and from my own experience, you can’t do anything but change your attitude towards it to a more positive one.
i turned bitter a couple of years ago and fought against everyone who tried to get in, because i was sick of being treated like shit, then every so often i would let someone in and they’d hurt me or i’d hurt them because i wanted the company but i didn’t like them in that way so they got led on. ANYWAY, i thought it was because i was shutting people out, or that i wasn’t good enough and it made me worse, then out of the blue, i was out with my friends one night, more bitter and anti-men than ever and my (now) boyfriend spoke to me and now i’m happier than ever. i didn’t panic for a second. i wasn’t paranoid or angry or worried because he was the right person, not because of me pushing people away at all.
it’s shitty and we’ve all been there but the right person won’t make you feel paranoid when you’re with them and that’s how you’ll know it’s right. the best ones are worth waiting for, i swear :)
stay away from him for a start, friends are forever but boys are not. believe me, it won’t be worth it and if it ends badly then you’ve lost both of them.
i’ve been in this situation, after trying to console both parties and getting no where i politely told them i didn’t want to be involved, that i’d give advice and comfort but i was the middleground and a catalyst for them to talk through when they were trying to get back at each other or one wouldn’t talk to the other.
this isn’t your break up so you’re not obliged to act like it is.
how old are you? in any case there is no legal age to date (as long as there is no sexual contact if you are under age).
you parents can’t tell you that you are not allowed to date, but maybe there are reasons as to why they are a little wary of boys?
have a chat with them about that and the reasons they are against it first, you shouldn’t have to hide it, you’re right, it’s your life not theirs and if you’re going to make mistakes they have to let you or you’ll never learn valuable lessons. if they shelter you away you’ll never learn any life experience if you’re just a carbon copy of them and what they want you to be.
ask them what the problem is and if that clears the air a little then tell them if you feel confident and happy. at the end of the day if they disown you for having a boyfriend it’ll only reflect badly on them.